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Be Madeline

When you find out that your child has been kicked five times while they were sitting in the secretary’s office just days after you had asked the principal if he was safe in the school…

When you go to Costco and the people are just mean.

People are huffing and puffing and muttering – obscenities probably – just because you are standing too long in front of a bag of chips.

When you get to the register and they won’t accept your coupon because it’s not the salad pictured and you hear the people sighing so loud that you feel it punch you right into next bloody Wednesday.

You just pay for the big Kardashian ass sized salad.

When you get to the parking lot and people honk because you take too long to get situated and move out of the way.

You get honked at for letting people cut in front of you, for backing out of spaces, and for just sitting there existing in your car.

You rage chew your gum all the way to Starbucks.

You rage chew it in the line at Starbucks.

You rage chew it thinking about how many times you got up in the middle of the night with your blind dog.

You rage chew it thinking about the mean little turdlettes at your son’s school.

You rage chew it thinking about his teacher, your back pain and why can’t I find my receipt to my chronic pain infusion, the medication I’ve yet to get refilled, I really need to get my hair cut, but I need to tackle the spring cleaning, ugh the laundry,

You rage chew that gum so hard that you make a diamond.

When the barista with soft face and the long, dark wiry beard snaps you out of it, he asks you what your name is, something shifts.

You say “Madeline.”

And he starts singing a song about Madeline and you laugh so hard because no one has ever done that…

And Madeline is not your name.

I told him to just spell it Maddy

It was both of my grandma’s names.

Then when I drove to my psychiatrist’s appointment – one that they had rearranged at the last minute – a man in the parking lot handed me his leftover time on his parking ticket.

“Put yourself first,” my psychiatrist reminded me, after I dumped all my baggage, my hurt, everything that those people didn’t see when they first encountered me that day.

Why can’t everyone just be kind.

I am not perfect. I will admit that I have had miserable moments with people but I am trying because I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end.

You and I have absolutely no idea what someone has gone through.

Being kind to someone – you have no idea what this does for a person who feels lost in chaos.

And to you – if you’re having a bad day, you can always start over and be Madeline.

She was always a bad ass.

19 Comments

  1. I like that name. Nice pic of you and Madeline there! I don’t know why people are so grumpy and b****y. I think they are unhappy with themselves so they take it out on anyone they come in contact with. Not cool. On the other hand, it’s amazing what a smile can do to life a stranger’s spirits or mine. If I happen to be on the receiving end of a stranger’s upturned lips and scrunched eyes.

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      Yeah I don’t know why people take it out on others. I get that you can be in a foul mood – because I can be. Yes. I. Can. We all can’t be happy all the time. But don’t take your frustrations out on a stranger for just existing in your personal space. EEEKS!

  2. Awwww, I love that pic of you both at the end <3

    I'm so sorry to hear this. There are just days when everyone apparently woke up on the wrong side of the bed, and they just need to calm the eff down. Where are we all rushing to go? Give the person a minute to sort out the coupons. Wait your turn while you're in the car. Stop kicking my friend's son in school (goodness, that one enrages me–I'm so sorry to hear you are still dealing with this–wtf, school?).

    In related news, do you ever feel like you're on a game show trying to bag your groceries on line? I feel like I'm forever racing and sweating so someone doesn't get upset with me for taking too long.

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      OMG that vision of a game show is perfection. It really is! I am laughing so damn hard right now. I will forever think of this whenever I am bagging my things. FOREVER. And yes, I do really sweat when I bag my own things. And I am out of breath. And I always end up smashing the bread. Effing bread. xoxo

  3. I need to be Madeline. Stupid ass dog chewed kids new shoes. Everybody keeps telling me, just make sure he has toys to chew…oh my word Kim, I am tripping over his damn toys and he chews her brand new shoes, the ones she was told to keep in her room. And I screamed and raged and now I cry. I just can’t today.

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      OH NO!
      Well Champ is 13 and still eats my underwear. I think that’s what they do. Eat things that aren’t toys. It doesn’t really matter what you buy them. They’ll always get into things they’re not supposed to. They’re like little kids.
      I remember it being really hard for a while with him as a puppy. Hang in there friend. xoxo

  4. It truly is amazing what a kind smile and small talk can do to turn your day around. Love the pic of you and your grandma. I miss mine so much…

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      I am so sorry Susi. I think grandmas are so very special. xoxo

  5. A lot of us forget that everyone has their own struggles. I try to remember that when I get frustrated. Being kind is simple and feels good. My son is a kind soul and I worry about him as he grows older because people can be assholes.

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      My son is a kind soul too. School has been a challenge this year but he has found a good group of friends that share the same views – I’m very thankful for that!

  6. That picture of you and your grandma is so cute! I am so sorry you had one of those days. Here’s to a better day!

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      Thank you Trish 🙂

  7. Those days are THE WORST. And I love the idea of being Madeline. Being a bad ass and just trying to spread kindness sounds like a good idea when the world gets you down!

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      Another blogger/writer/friend gave me the idea. Arnebya is her name and Starbucks can never get her name right. So she started to give them different names. It cracked me up. She is a phenomenal writer.

  8. Sooo true. We all need to spread more kindness, love and compassion. It goes a hell of a long way and can make a world of a difference for many.
    xoxo

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      We really do! Just be mindful that we are all going through things – big and small things. xoxo

  9. Yes it is amazing how just 1 kind gesture can turn around someone’s day!

    • Kimberly Kimberly

      Sure is!

  10. I thought I missed you in the last one, and I did. But now? NOW I REALLY MISS YOU. THis is fabulous.

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